Before I start….let me premise with the statement, I believe in “personal growth”
Here is where I differ from folks who circulate in the industry of “personal growth”. We do most of our learning as humans between the age of 0 and 15 years of age and for developing success habits our parents indeed played a large role in our growth….like it or not. Somewhere along the line in our formative years we were learning about consequences to our behavior. We were learning about rewards emanating from work and behaviors which would lead to successful relationships. We were learning right from wrong, etiquette (maybe), how to overcome, and skills necessary to complete tasks. We were learning adaptations and workarounds. We were up to challenges or we weren’t. If we were not, then we ran the risk of isolation. We learned when not to say what we were thinking. We learned to speak with strength in the right context. We learned how to assess environments with our intuitive senses and feedback mechanisms. All this was going on prior to the age of fifteen. A tremendous amount of stimuli came our way.
personal growth industry wants you to believe that you need to be remade or
remove much of what you had already learned or discard baggage or eliminate
dysfunctional relationships. Some other person is going to do a quick assessment
on your weaknesses having not lived through your years of development assumedly
by injecting a bag of tricks from the self help domain in order to make you new
I suggest that if you believe you need to find a better version of “you” that you assess your situation and work it backward for yourself for starters. Then entertain bringing in somebody else to assist with your own assessment. You do have the capacity to be honest with yourself but you must do so in the context of some reading or watching / listening to course materials in the area in order to stimulate regions within you that yearn to be fortified. Engagement with a practitioner will be much more fruitful having researched yourself first and identified sources of trouble.
It’s difficult to witness the disingenuousness of unqualified people prescribing without the authority to do so. It’s even worse to watch the low esteemed subject themselves to others when they’d be better served in solace with abundant materials available. The kinds of people one wants to see more of in the personal development space are those who have achieved what they’re espousing.
Is Canada corrupt? You go to work every day and pay your taxes. Your taxes are intended to provide services which benefit the public good. Naturally, human resources are required to administer such services. Your government also assesses your country’s standing in the world and maintains relationship with other nations in the context of preserving freedom and quality of life for citizens.
Then we have
a system of commerce which operates under the guise of “capitalism”. In a
capitalist system, small businesses and large businesses operate with particular
reasonable regulations relevant to their industries and such regulations are
imposed also in the context of the “public good”. An inherent trait associated
with “free enterprise” is the right of business to “fail” due to whatever underlying
factors are confronted. It is not the business of governments to pick and
choose winners and losers through political bias, personal relationships, or
preferential treatment due to the geographic jurisdiction of stakeholders. If
such a landscape was permitted to exist, free enterprise would lose its appeal
as a viable commercial system to engage with freewill unencumbered by systemic
learned through an ethics report – your country has failed you because in spite
of you playing by the rules, you’ve come to learned that your federal government
has a interfered in the legal process of a defendant charged with improprieties
in the name of “picking winning and losers” in the capitalist system. One must ask, as a nation, are we any
different from third world countries which make ever day habits of conducting
affairs on such terms?
Apparently the plasticity of the brain is lesser in
adulthood. Hence; you are going to be more challenged to identify pitch. In
fact, musical scholars are claiming that an adult may not be able to develop
perfect pitch but with training and could obtain proficiency in “relative pitch”.
So, don’t despair, this relative pitch is what we need the most when picking
out the next chord in a progression. A key has limitations with respect to
which chords are available and consequently the adult brain now gets to work
with finite possibilities in relative terms.
My youtube channel has one song which I posted that I knew
didn’t sound right but given the nature of my channel oriented around progress
and learning, I didn’t think much of it during the upload. Today, I revisited
the song and searched around on “ultimate guitar” (website) to review some
reader feedback associated with the
chord structure of the selected piece and discovered two flaws. Somebody with a
better ear than mine not only knew it didn’t sound right as scored but he was
able to offer the two corrections. I now look forward to the “redo”. The
process gives me comfort in that I may be going from the phase of “not knowing
what I don’t know” to “knowing what I don’t know” in the context of chord
recognition. At this stage of my development, I am still only reaching for a
chord because of a memorized sequence and not because of ear sense. This contrasts to a professional musician who
made an exclamation on his youtube channel that he showed up at a weekend
festival and was introduced to 18 new songs of which he went right to work on learning
and in short order played rhythm for the band in support. The take away is that
I must listen more carefully to the sounds instead of anxiously searching my